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I used to but not anymore well not at least in the way the cliche is used.
I grew up very religiously so as you could imagine I heard things about; it happened for a reason, gods will, destiny.. etc
After a series of events negative most of which could've probably been avoided/prevented. My mindset has changed a little.
Like I didn't loose someone in my life for no reason. There were actions that had negative consequences.
I didn't almost get raped for no reason, there were certain conditions that I put myself under thus I was at a higher risk and I knew that "unpopular opinion, I went there"
I've just come to terms with accepting that some things that happened were not destiny or predetermined but direct correlation to things I did.
Which makes me responsible
The only thing I consider randomized with reasons we can't always understand are things like race, racism , gender, sexuality, the family you were born into-culture, disability, death
Even still if you were given randomized unfavorable circumstances you still have control over the future outcom for the most part1