I have seen it on GAG that a few people think that being unattractive can have the positive effect of filtering out shallow people when it comes to romance. Do you believe this is true?
I don't often answer my own questions, except in updates, but I'll answer this one. For the record I don't believe it acts as a "shallow filter."
However, I could be wrong and I'm willing to listen.
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If by unnatractive you mean straight up ugly then no. Before I continue I must adress the word "shallow" . To me shallow is someone who will decide to date some PURELY for superficial reasons (money, looks) regardless of their personality traits. Someone who cares about looks or even has kinda high standards isn't shallow as long as they also care about personality and compatibility.
Now being unnatractive would definitely filter out the people who only care about looks but it would also filter out all the normal pepple whose standards are more reasonable but still require that they are somewhat attracted to their partner.
Also it wouldn't filter out anyone who is interested in them for money (assuming they are successful).
I suppose if a person is mediocre in both categories and manages to get a partner they can assume it's not because of shallow. However I'm assuming if they did get a partner it would be someone equally unnatractive and unsuccessful so perhaps they would just be settling for eachother because they are afraid to be alone. Maybe a misery loves company sort of thing which I don't see as good.
That being said I do think being average-slightly above average would be a good filter. This is because at that range you can still be seen as physically attractive to a decent amount of people but at the same tone you aren't soo attractive that someone would date you JUST because of your looks. So in this case I'd say it's a good filter.0