Are children really worth it?

Sometimes I feel like, everyone is so disloyal.

You're going to have a kid, and then that kid may grow up to turn their back on you.

What's the point?

I know it sounds like a terrible thing to say. But I've just had bad experiences with family.


Most Helpful Guy

  • I think children are fun and if you grow bored with them there are plenty of childless couples willing to adopt.

    • Omg

      "If you grow bored with them..."

      So kids are easily disposable to you?

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    • What counts as a dud kid?

    • A ginger. Or a really dumb kid. Basically any uncool kid that is more like a ball and chain than the cool accessory a kid is supposed to be.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Hey lady, you lady
    Cursing at your life
    You're a discontented mother
    And a regimented wife

    I've no doubt you dream about
    The things you'll never do
    But, I wish someone had talked to me
    Like I wanna talk to you

    Oh, I've been to Georgia and California
    And, anywhere I could run
    I took the hand of a preacher man
    And we made love in the sun

    But I ran out of places and friendly faces
    Because I had to be free
    I've been to paradise
    But I've never been to me

    Please lady, please
    Lady don't just walk away
    'Cause I have this need to tell you
    Why I'm all alone today

    I can see so much of me
    Still living in your eyes
    Won't you share a part of a weary heart
    That has lived million lies

    Oh, I've been to nice and the Isle of Greece
    While I've sipped champagne on a yacht
    I've moved like Harlow in Monte Carlo
    And showed 'em what I've got

    I've been undressed by kings
    And I've seen some things
    That a woman ain't supposed to see
    I've been to paradise but I've never been to me

    Hey, you know what paradise is?
    It's a lie, a fantasy we create about
    People and places as we'd like them to be
    But you know what truth is?

    It's that little baby you're holding
    It's that man you fought with this morning
    The same one you're going to make love with tonight
    That's truth, that's love

    Sometimes I've been to crying for unborn children
    That might have made me complete
    But I, I took the sweet life, I never knew
    I'd be bitter from the sweet

    I've spent my life exploring, the subtle whoring
    That costs too much to be free
    Hey lady, I've been to paradise
    But I've never been to me


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What Guys Said 8

  • If you are a good parent and you bring up your child well, it will love you. From love comes love, not hate. It's that simple. People who struggle a lot with their children are often (not always, there are exceptions) also not the best parents.

  • I think that if they turn their back on you depends very much on how much you'll hurt them during their lives. I think it's worth it.

    • Hmm not always. Sometimes it depends on other things too.

      Like their wives. If they achieve a lot and think they're better than everyone else including their parents. If they're naturally disloyal people. List goes on

    • Yeah, I agree but it doesn't happen with most people in my opinion.

  • My mother physically abused me, why wouldn't I forget she exists? Treat you kid well and you won't have anything to worry about.

  • You'll never know unless you have them.

  • They won't turn their back on you if you raise them right and you are good to them

  • It depends how you raise them.

    I mean all the white people ibknow don't give a ship about their folks, they dump them in an old peoples home a$ap rockey!
    But in my culture you look after your parents to the grave!

    • What culture are you?

    • Part Playan and part Swagerian.

  • you sound like a man talking about family.

  • If you are having children for yourself you shouldn't be having children.

    You have children to continue the chain of love, extending through the generations to you. You are a link and they are the next. I'm sorry you had a bad experience with your family. There are no guarantees in life. I consider children a kind of responsibility, the only way I have to repay and pass on all the love and sacrifice my parents made for me.


What Girls Said 10

  • Children don't suddenly turn their back on their parents for no particular reason. Maybe the parent was absentee, maybe they were abusive, maybe they were too controlling, etc. In my experience, those parents who raised their children in a household of love and caring and who were always there for them, tend to grow up loving and caring for their parents in the same manner that was shown them.

  • It depends on how you bring the kids up. I had the best childhood possible. Neither parent ever let me down. I was never put under pressure to be religious, or to be anything other than myself. I was given every chance to make my own decision as soon as I was old enough and had researched the topic.

    I will never turn me back on the one parent left.

  • If you do things only if you get things in return you'll live a sad life.
    The point of having kids isn't to have someone take are of you when you need it it's because you want to have a family and love something. You want to help it and raise it and give them what you didn't have. Hoping they return the love but not expecting it.

  • I think they are worth it. There are not so many people that you love unconditionally. You will love them unconditionally.
    You bring another life to this life. I think it is just magic.

  • Depends on the person I guess.
    To me they don't really seem worth it but to others they are.
    Just make sure that you actually want kids before having them. Don't let someone else try to make that decision for you. If you're not sure about it then don't have one.

  • I'm not going to.
    Already getting the plans to tie my tubes up.

  • The answer to that question will obviously vary. Personally, I'm not going to have any children. I don't feel like investing 18 years into a child.

    It's just not for me.

    • I think that's precisely what I fear.

      Investing so many years of your life, and in the end if something happens...

  • If you raise them right they won't turn out that way

  • If you raise them right from the beginning , then you won't have to worry much.

  • This is a very personal decision with infinite contributing factors.