Girlfriend keeps complaining about how rough I am in bed. I can't help it I always thought girls liked it rough. anyway this kinda pissed me off because now I feel insecure about myself. what if she cheats on me because I don't satisfy her. how/what can I do to "understand" her needs (she said I didn't understand her needs)
Most Helpful Girl
Try going slower. Touch her more. Maybe start foreplay with a massage and kiss her everywhere. Do everything slowly. Undress her, touch her, hold her, and when you're having sex, go slow. Move your hips around while you're inside of her. Afterwards cuddle with her and kiss her forehead. See what she says then.2
Most Helpful Guy
"I can't help it?" You can ALWAYS help it. You just need some self-control. Pay attention to her, to what she wants.
If you're afraid of her cheating on you over this, that doesn't speak well of the trust levels in this relationship, which I would say is a far bigger problem than your performance in the sack.1