My new job has early morning hours -- joy. It's not the waking up at 3:00 am that makes me nervous, it's the walking alone to the bus stop in the dark that makes me nervous. I've been doing this for about a week now and each time I come across some creepy homeless guy, or harassed for change -- how can I safely walk alone in the dark? I have no choice, I need my job and I need my money.
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Are you scared because you're walking in a place that is genuinely dangerous, because you're not very street smart, or just because you're a little nervous? I've been an independent city girl my whole life, and I routinely walk alone through areas people tell me I should never be in after dark, let alone by myself. Most of the time I feel completely comfortable, but I always know who is around me, I don't walk close by tall bushes or cars or anything similar that would allow someone to surprise me. And on those rare cases where I notice someone following me or just something about them makes my hair stand up, I trust my instincts and get the hell out of there. If your fears are legit but you can't avoid the travel, consider ways to mitigate the danger, like changing your route and timing so you're not completely predictable, or finding someone else (maybe from the same job) who is awake at that time and expecting you to check in so if something goes wrong, you'll be noticed quickly. If your fears are just paranoid, find statistics or stories of people like me that will repeatedly contradict the beliefs that make you scared (and stop listening to the violent crime stories on the nightly news). If you're not sure which kind of fear you're struggling with, go get Gavin DeBecker's book The Gift of Fear.3