Wouldn't it make more sense to teach your "kids" that violence isn't the appropriate choice? I don't understand the narrowing of scope? Does it imply that violence outside that narrow construct is okay? When I was married and took the kids to the doc, I always filled out their med forms and there was always a question about if I felt safe from my spouse at home. I answered no. Initially, before I sought help, that was the only thing I could manage. No one ever asked / talked to me about it. Was that because it was female on male violence? Is that okay?
- Of course it's not okay, but guys can take it so it's not a big deal.0% (0)7% (1)4% (1)Vote
- Violence against girls / women from boys / men is worse and deserves special treatment20% (2)0% (0)8% (2)Vote
- Meh0% (0)0% (0)0% (0)Vote
- They are the same. We should educate both sexes that violence isn't the proper solution80% (8)64% (9)71% (17)Vote
- Just show me the answers0% (0)29% (4)17% (4)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
It's not ever appropriate to let your children think violence is an acceptable answer to their problems. However. Girls receive constant societal messages that hitting is not ladylike and should not be done. Boys receive messages that hitting makes you manly and in control. It's important to counteract those message with parental guidance and examples so that the boys can carry those nonviolent messages on to their children and live better lives for themselves.0
Most Helpful Guy
I saw a movie one day and in it a man was teaching his two boys (see if you can get the reference). The man said there are three types of people in this world. The sheep. The wolves. And the sheep dog.
The sheep are the weak and the blind. The victims. The naive. The ignorant. They are easy targets and don't defend themselves.
The wolves are the bullies. The oppressors. The mean. The hateful. They need to pick on others to feel relevant and alive. The man told his boys if they ever become the wolf they are to never come back in his house.
The sheep dogs are the defenders. The protect. They shield. They love. They protect their own. They do not attack. They are not the offense. They are the defense. The man said if one of his boys is getting beat up the other should defend him.
I feel if I had boys I'd teach them the same thing. Don't start anything. Stay away from the wrong type of people. If someone attacks you you beat their ass, but never start anything with anyone and defend those you care about.
Notice I never brought up gender besides the two boys in the story and in reference to how I'd teach my boys (if I had sons).2