I live in Idaho, and I'm very socially conscious and I like to discuss ideas, science, and whats going on with the world. I'm pretty educated and it consumes a lot of my interests. But most girl friends I meet only seem to want to talk about guys and issues in their relationship. I met a girl who thought it was weird that I discuss the upcoming elections and stuff like that. I usually hang with a lot of guys cause usually they are the ones who care about these topics, and I meet lots of girls and guys online who live in bigger cities, on twitter and stuff. but I NEVER seem to meet girls like this in real life. I have 2 close girlfriends and they don't even understand things I discuss or follow whats going on in the world, they just want to talk about their exes and its making me feel super lonely that I don't have a girl friend to talk about things with. Is it just me or is this a common issue?
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Common issue. My belief, based on experience, is that girls in Western society are socialized to downplay and conceal intelligence, independence and non-conformity.
It's interesting when the wall of socialization comes down, and you discover that the amazingly conventionally attractive, mostly quiet and self-effacing blonde bombshell you've been interacting with socially for weeks or months is actually a towering intellect as well. This has happened to me several times. Some of the most intelligent, funny, sharp, intellectually engaged women I've ever met were the most stunning physically, and had been effectively concealing their genuine selves (and not just from me or other men--from other women as well).
So I think it's possible you're still at the point where these women (at least some of them) don't know the extent to which they can be themselves with you yet. That's one option.2