To enroll them in tons of activities when they are really young? My fiancé and I were talking and we had mentioned how when we have kids we want to enroll them in as many sports and fine art related things as possible. Is this bad? Our friends said that they believe it would put too much stress on them. Are we going to be overbearing parents?
Most Helpful Guy
Tons? You're in a dynamic relationship with your children. On one hand, they need to be taught boundaries, and exposed to things outside of their ordinary fields of vision. This will make them more rounded. On the other, you're just conditioning them, making them more like yourself and society (which let's face it, is imperfect), and stealing their childhood. I suspect it's about balance, ultimately. They have their own free will and input, if they *really* don't want to do something, you shouldn't make them. So, simply, listen to them, ultimately, find out where their interests lie, and cultivate them. But then, it's no bad thing to steer them, provided you do it with humility, given their field of experience is limited.
Personally, if I ever had children, I'd make them do one sporting activity, maybe something more outgoing and aggressive (such as a martial art) if they have an issue with discipline or physical expression. And something more creative, lofty and artistic, (such as playing the piano, for me), to cultivate that aspect of themselves.
Exposure and synthesis is probably better at their age. Let's say they do martial arts for 4 years, pass most of the belts, get quite good at it, but have no real interest in it, and do it without conviction; then maybe it's time to expose them to something else completely different. They can focus and drill down when they sufficiently know themselves well enough to do such a thing. And let's face it, the real issue we're faced with as individuals, is learning to be ourselves, and free ourselves from the bonds to the things we have no real passion for, as given to us by everyone else as we were growing up. To be free, independent people, to be ourselves. This is the ultimate, the way to true happiness, in my view.0
Most Helpful Girl
I think there should be balance. Sports and Art Classes do not necessarily benefit their future career and art might actually detract from their ability to tolerate the monotony of life. Maybe enroll them in karate class or get them to go on volunteer missions to other countries to teach them humility and frugality.0