I'm 27 and I'm pretty sure I'm already late for marriage and all that Dont blame me I'm just unattractive and girls don't like me. most girls at my age have kids and I want a relationship with a woman who has none so we can have our own. Sadly I'm almost 30 and I well I'm not gonna put my hopes up anymore.
I get really down and depressed about it and save your "theres someone out there for everyone" comments it really doesn't help anyone. I have a ton of hobbies but I have no friends, people tend to hate me pretty easily to be honest
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Sure you can be happy to be single, nothing wrong with that. I wouldn't knock yourself, some men tend to age better either through experiences, maturity, etc. etc. I have friends in their 30s that are not married yet, and don't have any children either. Most are happy about it and don't stress it. Just be you and happy, people like other positive people.0
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A lot of young men seem to think that if they portray themselves as unwanted that some girl will take pity on them and date them to prove that it's not really as bad as they think. I don't know if that's what you're doing, but I've seen it -- a lot -- and it's never to my knowledge landed a girl. If that's a fantasy you do have, drop it, because it's not productive.
Next, unplug. All of the BS you've heard over the course of your life about what makes a real man is just that: BS. The people who have been telling you your purpose in life is to screw lots of women or get married and raise little anons are doing so because they're looking out for *their* happiness, not yours.
Define your own purpose and establish conditions for your own happiness that are within your control. When you are not tied down, the possibilities are limitless (note that this doesn't mean everything is possible; many things are also out of our control). Figure out what you want to do with your life -- make a list if you need to -- and start planning out how to accomplish it. Then go for it. It may be necessary to be deliberate and patient -- some plans take years to execute -- but there' also no point in making excuses and waiting to start: neither God nor fate nor the fairy godmother is coming to set things right just because you're in a miserable situation.
I know that all comes across as harsh, and I know you really do know a lot of it already, but I've been where you are, and I know that all the "poor baby"-ing in the world isn't going to change anything. Kick yourself in the butt and start looking at life as an opportunity, not something that just happens to you.0