My friend has been telling me a lot lately, that he wishes to die. It's so sad and I have no idea how to help him out of that situation. I just want him to feel happy and see that life is worth living for. Any suggestions as to how I can help him with that?
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If you're worried your friend is having suicidal thoughts, the first thing you should do is ask him to talk about how he feels and listen to everything he says. Remember you don't have to act the agony aunt by giving him advice or saying you know how he feels.
You must also be careful about coming across as judgmental. You may well have formed certain opinions about his habits and behaviours, e. g. that he drinks too much, but voicing him will only make things worse.
Instead, show empathy. Avoid addressing his problems with your own experiences and instead ask questions. However, be careful with your phrasing. Avoid questions like;
- What are you going to do now?
- Why did you do that?
These questions probably can't be answered and might make him feel threatened or frightened. Instead, ask open-ended questions such as;
- What were you thinking when it happened?
- Where did that happen?
Help him look at options for solving his problems.