I know this is extremely shallow but I get all my self esteem from my appearance. If I don't look good, I am not going to have high self esteem that day. I know this isn't a good thing and im trying to work on it so that's why I am wondering how I can get good confidence if I don't think I'm physically attractive enough?
Most Helpful Guy
Your value as a person, which is measured by your self esteem, is only slightly affected by your appearance. If your profession is based on your appearance say like a supermodel, that changes things but only a little. How you treat others, your value system, your compassion, your honesty, your loyalty--all these are a much bigger part of who you are that how well you applied your make up this morning or that you're having a bad hair day. Your appearance is easy to repair. Your character, not remotely.1
Most Helpful Girl
There are other things they draw their strength from.
For example I myself can't really understand how people with a mere American college degree or a degree in art and humanities and no special talebts can have any confidence. I also can't understand how people who only know one language get around and aren't embarrassed about it.
You see, since you think you look better than the average girl, you value your looks above everything else in life. If you had come to posess other qualities you'd constantly be asking yourself how other people can live without them.0