I just don't understand it. I guess I'm somewhat attractive. I'm sweet, nice, smart, a gentleman.. I can go on and on. I have good and fun conversations with girls, yet nothing ever comes from it.
A most recent example was on Tinder (I know it's for hookups). I thought maybe there would be a decent girl on there who was just like me not looking for a hookup. I matched with this beautiful girl and we messaged for a day. We had a good conversation and I wasn't weird at all. I just checked Tinder now and she unmatched me!
I know I shouldn't let this affect me, but it is. I'm always rejected in any way, shape, or form. I can't get a date in real life OR TINDER. What the hell? Should I just stop looking for love?
My self confidence is just going down the toilet.
Thank you for reading.
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You know I have the same issue. Some people might call me full of myself, but I consider that confidence. I would rather be confident in myself then hate myself, so when I say that I am also good looking, smart, and an all around great match for women I mean it. I am loyal, respectful, I make good money (better then most), I treat women well, I am a gentleman, and on top of that I work out, and have a six pack. Its not incredibly defined, but its clearly there. I can't find women I actually like, perhaps my standards are too high but it seems like all the women I want are in relationships or not interested. Finding just any girlfriend is easy for me, as of right now I know of about 3 girls that I know would go out with me if I asked them to go out, but none of them fit my standards, I want someone who is more similar to me looks wise and in other ways. The problem is girls normally say I am an 8 out of 10, so naturally I want a girl who is at least a 7.5 out of 10, it only makes sense that a good looking guy like me gets a good looking girl. Unfortunately the girls I meet that are above 7.5 are in relationships about 60% of the time, and about 30% of the remainder are just looking for hookups/sex, which I dont want. That leaves like 10% of the attractive female population not in relationships, but looking for one. Those aren't good odds, its hard finding them. My standards outside of looks aren't even that high. I make good money so I dont really care what her job is since I probably make more then her and therefore could support us anyway, I dont really care how she acts provided she isn't ditzy/dumb (in the way she acts and her decisions, book smarts doesn't matter), and isn't b*tchy or sl*tty. There are a lot of types of women out there and I can get used to them provided they are attractive and not those things. I find it very difficult to find a woman like that though, just because they are so rare. I feel you man, its hard, even though I am handsome and have money I still find it difficult to find women that I want.2