So i moved 3 months ago to go to uni, and 2-3 weeks after arriving i decided to join a volunteer group to make more friends.
People there are super nice, including and social, but i still haven't made any "legit friends".. and what i mean by that is that i dont have anyone im close to. I dont have anyone to invite to hang out outside the volunteer work.
Yesterday there was this party with all the volunteers and i decided to stay longer then i usually do, be more outgoing, joining more things, but i ended up walking from one person to another because they would dance with me one minute and then they would leave the next minute, so i walked to some other people.. to be social and instead of just sitting alone and doing nothing.
So basically i feel alone even when im surrounded by these people.. And im actually considering quiting because when i leave work or the parties i feel bad... i always walk home alone and i have no one to share things with.
I can't decide if i should stay a bit longer and see how things go or if i should just stop.. If i do stop i'll be less soscial ofc.. but it stings a little when you dont have that one person to go to, or that group of people that wants you to be there etc
So any advice?
Most Helpful Guy
You know what you want, that's great. My experience is to get really involved with the people and things will change.0
Most Helpful Girl
Some friendships take longer to build than others, especially when you are surrounded by many people who can potentially be your friend. Don't leave, I suggest stay and give those people a chance. Moreover, I think you should also try to see if you can make friends with individual people, who are not always in a crowd of large friends. That way, anyone can have a higher chance of making friends.0