So this guy obviously has a thing for me.. and he likes to help me out and buy me drinks and stuff.. To begin with i always said yes, but then i thought about it and realised that this could look bad and for all i know he thinks that i'll like him if he buys me things. So i started saying no when he offered and just kept my distance.
So i was really going to work this staurday, but i wanted to go to this party so i asked him if he knew someone who could work. He didn't know, but offered to ask around for me.. he is having a paty so im assuming he wants me to go to his party.
But i dont know how to feel about it? Am i bad person for doing this? Even when i say no when he wants me to buy me a beer or whatever he insists, i even said "i want you to use your money on yourself", so he said "but by using them on you im using them on myself".. and i never ask for things either.. so i have a hard time feeling bad because of it, i mean he obviously wants to buy me drinks.. and im broke most of the time.. so its hard to say no, epseically if im drunk already
Most Helpful Guy
While I agree with @aficionado I would also like to add something. Aficionado is correct in that at long as you "make clear to him that you won't return any favors in lieu of the drinks", it’s fine IN this case. However, you still need to be very careful that you don't abuse the situation.
The fact of the matter is, this can very easily go to a "Taking Advantage" situation, and people will notice. While he knows that you are not interested in him, he IS interested in you, so he is buying you drinks because he likes you, even if it is only out of “Friendship”.
While this never happened to me with a girl, I have had this happen with a male friend. I considered him a really good friend for a long time. However, it seems that he was always broke. Therefore, every so often I would offer to pay for some of the cost of hanging out. After a while this “Friend” began to expect me to pay for him. No matter what we did, I had to foot the bill. I felt very taken advantage of, so I stopped hanging out with him, which hurt his feeling. We both ended up mad at each other.
If you abuse his wiliness to buy you drink now and then, you will become someone who takes advantage of those around you, even if he knows that you aren’t interested in him.0
Most Helpful Girl
Eh, if that's how he wants to spend his money then so be it.0