So it seems like a lot of people on here don't want kids. That's completely fine of course but I'm curious, why don't you want kids?
If you want kids this question is obviously not for you.
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I don't like kids, I'm the eldest of four so I've been put off haha. They're noisy and messy, and I really can't be arsed with the 'talking to children' voice you have to do to communicate with them.
Call me selfish, but I'd just rather live a quieter and freer life. When you have kids, you're tethered to them. Everything takes a lot longer and involves a lot more planning because you have to organise it round childcare, even the most basic things like going to the supermarket.
I want to be free to have hobbies. I want to keep my body how it is for as long as possible; I like my figure, and not having stretchmarks on my stomache. The idea of pregnancy and birth is very unappealing to me, I don't want to go through that pain. I want to be able to have lots of sex with my future partner, whenever we want, without having to worry about whether the kids can hear, or being too sleep deprived to be in the mood.
I also really dislike schools. I hate how petty the rules are, the really early mornings, the 'mummy politics' in the playground. And even if, as I probably would, I loved my own children and considered them exceptions to my not liking kids, having the would mean having to deal with other people's children.
Because of all these things, I probably wouldn't be a very good mother. Kids don't deserve a Mum who resents them for being the reason she can't live the life she wants to. I can have a really bad temper, I know I'd probably smack my children, which wouldn't be great. I might be neglectful, or make them feel bad about themselves.
It's not that I'm a completely cold, un-nurturing bitch. But I'd just prefer to be nurturing for my partner, than for children who were dependent on me. I'd prefer to just have that caring, mutual and equal relationship with another adult, than have to be responsible for someone else's whole life; that would be too much for me.
Also the whole issue of overpopulation and the future being very uncertain for the younger generations. I'm not sure I want to contribute to that.0