My boyfriend and I have been wanting to have a baby for a long while now. We both know we can't, we don't have money or time. And we are both going through a lot of important times in our lives to do with jobs and study things. But we can't help but think about it.. I've always been extremely mature for my age. At school it was hard for me to have friends because I felt like they were so immature and we didn't have many things in common. My boyfriend wants to get married to me next year, his parents are very old and we both would love it if his parents could spend a lot of time with their grandchild before they pass away. This is not the only reason though! We are both very in love with eachother and have a very strong relationship.
Most Helpful Guy
It is a bit early to start thinking about having kids. I say, allow yourselves to get over the "honey moon" stage first, then start thinking about marriage; the baby comes last, but it becomes a priority... that's where financial stability is most important.1
Most Helpful Girl
Yeah it sounds fun and all, but it isn't. You literally have to drop your entire life and begin making sacrifices the minute a child is in your life. Being "mature" doesn't mean you're ready to be a parent. I was a nanny at eighteen for four children and by the end of the day you are mentally exhausted. You have to keep in mind that having a child at this age also is an awful idea unless you already have a high paying job. Do you know what babies cost? Go to college kid, get a real career, get your own place and then consider having kids.
Unless you are willing to put that child's needs before your own for the next 20+ years, don't have one. Because right now it seems like you aren't thinking about what's best for your potential baby, because I don't suspect either of you has a job above minimum wage if a job at all.
If you really insist on having a kid I would get some things figured out first.0