Say if someone's mind always jumps back to an event in their past whenever they're alone.
How would one stop that? Do they distract themselves with hobbies and friends until it goes away?
Should they really face it and accept it? Should they pretend it doesn't exist and forget it ever happened?
What would be the best way forward?
Most Helpful Girl
I'm not sure what you're referring to or how to answer.
For header question-It affected them so much that it changed who they were. If something altered someone then it is something embedded in their brain as a fear, regret, terrible core memory.
A way to get over that is to try to see the light and see that that part of the life is done with. And there's so much more to life that what happened in the past.1
Most Helpful Guy
I don't think you can willingly get it out of your head that easily. Sometimes things just keep popping into your mind and you can't get them out.
If it's a significant event, I don't think it's possible to nrver think about it but I think you can prevent it from consuming you. Also as time passes and it's not as fresh, you probably won't think about it as much. I'd recommend rationalizing that it's already happened and you can't change it. Picking up a new hobby or skill could help too.
Maybe try to find something else to consume your thoughts. Something from the future, lIke set a new goal and let it become your new obsesion to replace the thought od the past.. Obviously it's not ideal to obsess over anything but I think it's better to obsess over the future than the past because you still have some control over it.
It's easier said than done. Finding motivation to actually follow through is hard :/1