i am almost certain that the guys who have slept with the most numbers of pretty girls, are also the same guys who have failed with the most numbers of girls.
and if you are one of these guys who have slept with many pretty girls, i just wanna ask, how do you deal with that pain of rejection and failure when that gorgeous girl simply reject or ignore you to let you know that you are simply not good looking enough for her and make you feel like you are the most worthless piece of human being in this world and you just want to dig a hole and hide and die a slow and painful death so that you can get away from this pain?
if i could only stop drinking beer every night and start gaining some muscle and getting some clothes that are not so casual, my appearance would already not be a factor in getting girls because, insecure as I may sound, I am actually quite confident that my facial feature is as good as anyone who can get a 8/10 girl. You would be looking at a really nitpicking girl who would call me ugly. my problem is not physical but mental and material.
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Not sure what this has to do with sleeping with pretty girls, but as I read on, it actually turned out to be a very interesting question.
A great trial lawyer I knew once told me, "I always get nervous before a trial" ... "but once I'm up there, an involuntary switch goes on, I'm on autopilot, I'm a passenger in my own body just along for the ride, I'm floating on clouds, and everything falls into place."
I remember the first time I got "rejected" by a girl in a "club." Well, it was more of a loud bar/lounge, so, "club" based on noise level. I was there with a group of guys, and they were too shy or nervous to walk up to any girls. So, I took the task upon myself. I wasn't even looking to start anything with any girl. So, I spotted this group of two girls just standing in the middle of the room drinking their drinks, and not even talking to each other. They were below average by every sense of the word. So, I thought, "why not go over there, they'll be flattered, the guys will have someone to talk to, it'll all work out for everyone."
Well, that's not how it worked out. I went up there, just asking them if they would like to come over and sit by the couch we had reserved. The skinnier one looked at her friend and said with such a proud expression on her face, "Uhhh, no thank you." As I walked away, the two girls were giggling between themselves in some sort of victory-celebratory fashion.
I was honestly confused. But, then I realized what happened. Typically, men are the ones charged with the task of approaching (especially in public settings). So, women are endowed with the luxury of sitting comfortably on high-ground, having to do nothing more than simply say, "No." Be that as it may, men have to put what "no" means in context and in perspective.
That night, I realized something. Those girls were not attractive. I wasn't even interested in them. From my POV, I was doing THEM and my guy friends a favor. Yet, they proudly seized the opportunity to say "no" to "me." Why? Because "being approached" is the only thing required for a girl to feel "validated/accepted" by the guy, and "saying no" is all that's required to "feel powerful."
More importantly, however, what that means is that "no" does "not mean," "I'm a worthless, valueless piece of sh*t loser as a man." Phrased differently, "No" =/= "rejection of YOU... as a person... as a man."1
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