Most Helpful Girl
I"m not even sure anymore, I've seen the ugliest sides of marriage and I know a lot of people who have cheated in their marriage. I also never want to get divorce not that when people get married, they think they are going to. But anyway- I'm not sure, I like the idea of having a husband and a family, but there's a lot of ugliness in whats suppose to be a beautiful thing.1
Most Helpful Guy
Fuck no. Marriage is a deathtrap for males, these days. Before, the male benefit of being married was being the *respected* head of the household. These days, the reward for marriage is being viewed like a stupid, inept fuckhead who can never do or sacrifice enough for the wife (as depicted in the media OFTEN), to the witty and clever wife. Oh, the icing on the cake is the chance to lose half your assets and income and all of your children, because the courts favor women in pretty much all things. Men get 63% longer sentences based on the same crime and same criminal history, as well, incidentally, according to Michigan State Law. To just dip into female preference in the courts.
And that's to say nothing of my belief that humans are not naturally monogamous. We are primates attempting to be geese. Geese mate with one partner for their entire lives. If it dies, they never get another mate. Humans are technically "serial monogamists", which just means one at a time. I think whomever coined that term was making a joke. Serial monogamy is closer to polygamy/amory than it is true monogamy. I could sleep with one woman per day, and I'd still be considered a serial monogamist, not a polyamorous person.
Cheating is biologically advantageous to both males and females. Males fulfill their innate desire for variety while having a steady stream of sex and companionship; and, females get a steady source of resources, companionship, and are able to get better genes outside of the relationship. Inevitably, your relationship will be lacking in something. And at that point, the urge to go out and get it from somewhere else will be strong. I think males understand this more than females, on average. Females swear they would never ever do something like that--but, they're just sneakier. They're thinking with their logical brain, not their emotional brain, so they really can't say what they would do unless they were in that situation.
I truly wonder how many murder and suicides and murder-suicides have been the result of attempting to be monogamous. Someone cheats and tears someone's world apart. Naaa. Any future relationship I enter will be open.
The only way I would get married is if it was open and I had a prenub stating she doesn't get shit from me (though I might help her, by my own decision) or my kids, depending on the circumstances.
I like the House of Cards relationship. They both know they cheat, and they're just like "did it make you happy?" No hate.1