There's a new girl at my workplace and as soon as she started, she was very quick to rub everybody the wrong way. She's loud, she has an attitude, she's quick to snap at people (even customers), and she's constantly trying to get out of doing her work. She exasperates me just like she does everyone else, but I'm one of the only people she gets along with because I'm nice to her.
Am I wrong for being nice when in reality I don't like her?
Most Helpful Guy
It's very fake in my opinion. Maybe tell her in a calm and not condescending tone how she is messing up with your co workers. Offer to keep an eye on her and warn her in advance.
She might not even notice her bad behavior- constant bad behavior has a reason.
However, in my case, you have to do a lot before I dislike you.
Everybody makes mistakes after all and how are new people supposed to know how I will react at the very beginning of interacting with me?
General politeness opens doors however and this is never bad or fake.
I for example usually hold doors open for the people behind me and I get interactions from this with new people often.
My experience: I "had" a female friend kind of when I was 16 - I thought she was just leading me on, although she really liked me (My self-esteem was too low to believe it back then), I quit all contact with her when I was 18 because I thought her friendliness to me was just fake - it was not. I was kind of a misfit in 10th grade, but she made the effort to get to know me and talk to me - I thought : If no one else talks to me, she must be tricking me - she was not. Ages 16 to 18 were the darkest times of my life.
I am so glad I got back in touch with her this year in summer. She is 100 % real and not fake at all !0
Most Helpful Girl
No it's called taking the high road. If I were to act rude, fight, or just go out and say I don't like people I would have 1,000 enemies.
It's better to be the bigger person than to stoop down to her level. If you don't like someone or they don't like you fine but you should at least respect each other.
If that's not possible and everyone is having a problem with her why hasn't anyone/all of you reported her? I'm sure your boss/manager has winessed her rude behavior and laziness.0
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