Which do you think is easier? Is it easier to force yourself to become attracted to someone you find physically unattractive, or is it easier to make yourself more physically attractive?
If it isn't obvious, I do of course mean this IN MOST CASES BUT NOT ALL.
I have my own answer to this, which I'll share later.
- In most cases, it is easier to force yourself to become attracted to someone you find physically unattractiveVote A
- In most cases, it is easier to make yourself physically more attractiveVote B
Most Helpful Girl
It's easier to make yourself attractive compared to forcing attraction. Making yourself attractive is a lot more sustainable than forcing your feelings. If you put effort into working out, buying nice clothes, making sure your skin is clear and BO is under control, your chances of finding someone who thinks you're attractive is a lot better. Forced feelings are not sustainable. Nobody can force themselves to feel a certain way. It would be fake, and eventually they would become bored of having to be fake. If feelings grow over time then that's great, but such feelings aren't even forced in the first place.2
Most Helpful Guy
I think its different based on gender. It also depends on how unattractive you are and how unattractive the person you're forcing yourself to be attractive to is.
I think with women it might be easier since their sexual attraction is often more mental compared to a mans whose is mostly based on the physical. So I feel like a woman could become attracted to a guy over time whom she initially wasn't very attracted to just based on his looks.
For men it might be easier to improve his attractiveness since men care more about personality in terms of compatibility but are less likely to become attracted to a physically unappealing girl no matter how great her personality is. Although it depends on how unattractive he is and what features are causing him to be unattractive. If he can improve his attractiveness by going to the gym, getting a new haircut and buying a new wardrobe then that's easier.
However, if his problems are based on bone structure or personality traits that he's had for most of his life then he could be fucked. In this case both options are likely equally out of reach.0