Why are people shy? Don't they know they'll miss out on life if they don't try?
What Girls Said 8
Fear. Fear of rejection, and judgment. Not everyone grows up receiving healthy positive stimulus. Fear comes from so many areas at a young age and it literally effects how you perceive yourself and how you think others will perceive you. Other factors that influence are media, advertising, peer groups... etc...
The list is long but boil it down to the bottom and it's fear, rejection and judgment.4
I used to fear people. Now, I just hate people.
I can be shy. I am trying to change that though.0
It's not so much that... People have different reasons on being shy. For example, I'm actually really shy myself but once I get comfortable with the person I open up and I'm not so shy anymore. My reasons are just really difficult to explain. Lol1
Maybe some people don't see it as a bad thing, something they have to change. And those who do might not know how to change.0
It's not a choice? How do expect people to be someone they're not?0
What Guys Said 13
You act like it's a choice. It's not. They are fully aware that they are missing out. That makes no difference whatsoever. Asking a shy person to not be shy is like asking a person to fly. If a shy person overcomes it, most likely they either weren't very shy to start with, or it took years to overcome it.
There are shy people who can't overcome their shyness even to save their life, literally. They suicide because of it. If they really are that shy, very likely nobody even knows the reason, because they were too shy to talk about it. I'll take it a step further. I bet shy people have died because they are dying and are too shy to call 911.0
There's a difference between knowing stuff and actually doing something about it. Most people becomes shy from their experience, atmosphere, fear of rejection and constant rejection. Some may even argue that shyness is born within you and although it's easier said than done or to say that those people usually miss out on things, it's often hard to step out of your comfort zone, try something new, and be more extroverted and less shy. I used to be shy when I was around 12-13 years old, but throughout the years, I learned that the more you do it, the more you get used to things, and that I want no regrets. I don't want to contemplate of what should have been or could have been.1
lol people are shy because they feel anxiety. i'm pretty sure they're keenly aware of they're missing.
i think what you mean is why are people introverted as in why do they prefer to read books instead of socialize when given an either/or0
FEAR AND SELF-HATRED! I'm shy as well but I think to myself why the F**K are you shy? Being rejected is nothing and not every girl will obliviously reject you. It happens then it's over. The thing is if I get rejected I replay the moment over and over in my head thinking what I did wrong or am I just ugly? That's a really bad feeling! I know logically being shy is STUPID! But my emotions and feelings over power logic.0
It's a psychological condition.0
maybe they don't know it YET*0
I think shy people don't do this willingly.2
You're mistake is thinking that shy people don't try because they do try and many fail and many fail again and again and no matter how hard they try, they fail and eventually they thrown in the towel.0
The world would be way too annoying if everyone was a loud ass extrovert.1
People don't choose to be shy. I used to be and I missed out on a lot.0
I'm going to miss out on a lot because it's something I don't see myself breaking out of, It's just the way it is "shrugs"0
yea I already missed out on something great earlier this year I regret it0