Yes there are girls who approach but they are still in the minority.
what do you think is the reason for women still not approaching as much as men?
- Because that is how it is supposed to be. A well established social practice that should remain in place18% (23)9% (11)14% (34)Vote
- Because girls are scared of rejection30% (38)25% (30)27% (68)Vote
- Because it makes a girl seem desperate28% (35)8% (10)18% (45)Vote
- Simply because girls dont have to since most men still approach6% (8)18% (22)12% (30)Vote
- Girls like having the power of rejecting and dont want to lose that2% (2)24% (29)12% (31)Vote
- Girls like getting free meals since whoever asks for the date does the paying and thats usually the man0% (0)6% (7)3% (7)Vote
- A different reason (please say)16% (21)10% (12)14% (33)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
Lol thanks for the mention:
I guess it's all of the above.
A) It's a societal norm, and contrary to popular belief, societal norms are much harder and take time to change. Especially in the US, since the population is so big, there's too many people to influence. Not to mention, too many cultures. Lots of Machista or traditional cultures actually reject this progressivism, particularly religious, and they prefer to keep things as they are.
B) yup. This was mainly my reason to not approach men. I'm really shy when it comes to new people. And it's one of the things that scares me the most. I'm used to not getting what I want though, so I just figured to be prepared to fail.
C) It does make girls seem desperate. As I said in my take, it was disheartening to hear men mock women who approach guys. Some even mocked the men who accepted the offers "what a wuss. Now she's gonna be 'the man' in the relationship."
Or they think "what's wrong with her that she has to ask men out? Men should be lining up to date her." Legit, some guys told me this because I mentioned that I've asked guys out.
D) this is sadly true. I've asked a nice number of men out, but it does not even compare to the amount that have asked me out. So for a while, I got used to men doing that, I figured I'd never need to. But the problem was the guys I really liked weren't asking me out. They were the shy, geeky types. So there was a lot of "missed opportunities" because I did expect them to approach me.
E) I don't think I've ever heard of a girl liking the power to reject. Probably a few exist, but I don't think it's common enough to make such a generalization. I feel this is something some men are ignorant of and mistakenly assume it to be true.
F) Lol I knew this would be on the list. I won't deny there are some women who do this or have done it at least once, but I don't think it's common enough to stop so many women from asking out.
G) I keep stressing this, and men seem to not get it, for YEARS, no CENTURIES, WE WERE MARRIED OFF TO KEEP POWER WITHIN FAMILIES. WE WERE RAPED AND FORCED TO STAY WITH OUR USUALLY MUCH OLDER RAPISTS, WE WERE EXCHANGED FOR CATTLE.
THIS IS STILL A NEW CONCEPT, and it WILL TAKE PROBABLY CENTURIES BEFORE ACTUAL PROGRESS HAD BEEN MADE.
Sure, many of us didn't experience this first hand, but wisdom is passed down. Our mother's and grandmother's main goal was to marry a man who was stable because they weren't given the same opportunities as we have now.4
Most Helpful Guy
It's a combination of the above, but mostly A, B, and D.
It's tradition and women like the idea of a guy sweeping them off their feet. They're hate rejection and finally since most guys are willing to maje the furst move, women just don't have to. As long as a girl is moderately attractive she can legit not pursue anyone and still have guys ask her out. Sure she may not get asked out by the guys she wants but that's when you hear them complain about how men are too passive. Women prefer to bitch about the guy she likes being too passive rather than make the first move and ask the guy out.
I have seen some girls say they're afraid of being seen as easy, but I never really got that. I'm not going to see a girl as easy simply for asking me out.0