I put on weight... 30 pounds to be exact. It's a decent amount of muscle and fat from training and being fed 3x as many calories than my usual diet. I'm 5'4", before I gained the weight I weighed 115 pounds.
My husband always ask if I have been to the gym every time he talks to me. It's just awkward now... I don't go, I hate working out. I'm pretty damn fit even after everything, I just hate working out. I'm pretty sure he thinks I am fat, even though he said he loves my hips and butt. If I work out, I'll lose that and my boobs. Should I just go a head and get skinny again?
P. s. he told my mom I lost weight, what gives? Why did he lie?
Most Helpful Guy
There's a few options. Let's assume the good ones first: maybe he's asking purely because he's worried about your health.
Or, have you mentioned the gym and working out to him in the past? Maybe he thinks it's important to you, and he thinks he's just making conversation. My girlfriend and I do this. She's a little overweight, but always seems to talk about losing weight or going to the gym in our conversations somewhere. I feel I would have every right to ask her about her working out habits if she brings it up more often than me.
Maybe he really DOES like your hips and butt. Maybe so much that he wants them to keep growing bigger! Some guys like that but aren't willing to admit.
So much scrutiny, but not advice... so here you go: you really need to be very honest together. Ask him what he truly thinks of your body. Tell him what his questions and comments are doing to you. If he gets defensive, suggest ways that he can support you in your health goals instead of asking you about the gym all the time. eg. why don't you work out together. If you hate working out it might motivate you, and it makes him do something to contribute. Might get you closer together on this issue too. See if you can't sort this out like adults.0
Most Helpful Girl
This reminds me of this haha! xD
I don't think you should overthink it. If you think you are fit, and he didn't tell you that you "need" to go to the gym, it doesn't mean you are fat. Going to the gym is good for training your stamina and for a better health though.1
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