im really worried about my baby sister. She is 17, going on 18 very soon, and i just learned that she has been talking to a 25 year old dude from American and she is planning to visit him.
My mother said she can't do much because when she is 18 she can basically do what she wants. And the though stressed me out. She is normally a very intelligent and mature for her age and she gets A's and B's in school, so it feel even worse considering those factors. I just didn't expect it
I dont know what to do.. i mean its such a irrational and unsmart thing to do.. he is frikin 25 and they live on completely different contients, he could be a murder for all we know.. and that she is even thinking about going makes me scrared to be completely honest
I dont know what to do? any advice?
Most Helpful Guy
Mmmmh but maybe you're also overreacting? Sure... theoretically it could be murderer but then again, it could also be the big love of her life. Why only look at the glass half empty? Statistically, chances are certainly higher that he is a nice guy rather than a murderer. And the age gap doesn't mean much I think. My little sister also had a boyfriend who was 6 years older when she was 18. And whether he lives in America or in China or in your own neighborhood really doesn't matter. Even if he was from your city, he could still be a murderer (or a very nice guy). The distance doesn't change that. I'm together with a girl from a different continent and I'm definitely no murderer ;-).
I think the best thing to do in this situation would be to trust your sister's judgement and let her go but make sure she'll be safe by telling her about the dangers and reminding her to be careful.0
Most Helpful Girl
WHY isn't HE coming to HER? Trust me, my daughter at 18 pulled this nonsense wanting to see some guy her age in Canada - it turned out fine but I understand exactly how you feel. It is her choice and she won't listen... but I think she should respect herself enough to ask the guy to come see her the first round, seriously.0