I truly believe you cannot really be jealous or envious of someone that you completely respect.
I think a large part of both jealousy and envy is because you’ve seen some kind of weakness in that person, associated with whatever you may be jealous or envious of.
For example, if I met an astronaut tomorrow, there would be no basis of envy or jealousy. Because I am so in awe of that person being perfect, that I wouldn’t even think it logical at all for me to be jealous or envious of someone. I’m almost operating under the assumption that person is so smart/great, that I would want them to like me and respect them.
Now if I met someone else who was an engineer, but not a very good one who used to smirk and talk shit about people, the chances of both the jealousy and envy is higher, because while I somewhat look down on that person, I am also aware that she may have pursued slightly better educational qualifications than me, that makes it hard for me to stand up to her.
People who have been jealous or envious of me, I don’t think it started out that way. It was more them being so in awe of me that they wouldn’t stand up to me or almost be intimidated of me.
But over time when they saw the fact that I’m not perfect, that notion of perfection faded away and they started to get those feelings because I am better, but maybe not to the extent that they thought me to be.
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I actually think it's the other way around.
Personally, I feel no jealousy, or envy, for a person that I have no respect for. If I think they're a lousy, rotten, terrible person (and thus, not worthy of respect), then I don't want anything they have, nor do I have no desire to be anything like them. Why would I envy someone that I can't even respect? The two would seem to be mutually exclusive.
Now, if it's someone that I have the utmost respect for; a wonderful or accomplished person, then I would have more reason to feel envy. They are, in my opinion, a truly great person, whom I would aspire to be more like.
If you respect someone, it would be easier to admire, and emulate them, because they have desireable traits/characteristics that you, yourself, would like to posses (if you don't, already), because then you would have that which you respect.
You would then increase your own self-respect, by possessing that which you respect, in yourself.0