I am 14 and I take the public Metro bus with my friend (she's 14 too) and so do some guys (they also are 14 too) at our school. Anyways on the bus they call her a "weeaboo" (look it up if u don't know what that is) and make fun of her for being bisexual. And today as she was leaving the bus one of the guys threw a shoe at her. Also they said "Haha omg she's gonna go cry and cut herself and be a fucking weeaboo!" And they even told her to go kill herself. Those guys make fun of me too but not as often. Also, they are the biggest hypocrites ever: They say that she's rude and annoying and "insensitive to how others feel." Yet they told her to kill herself, threw a shoe at her, and call her names. Who's the insensitive one now? This happens almost every day and I don't know what to do because I'm tired of it. I'm afraid of speaking up because they will laugh at me and probably roast me with comebacks. by the way she films the stuff they do on the bus so we could use that as evidence. So is this considered bullying?
Most Helpful Guy
Yes, this is bullying.
And one thing I find particularly crazy here is that this is happening on a public transport bus you said, correct? What the hell? Is there no decent fellow passenger that ever sticks up for you guys? Some tough grandpa or somebody like that? That's so crazy!
You should definitely tell your teacher and potentially also your principal about this. Oh and your friend should also talk to her parents about it.
And to give you a little advice how to act in that situation:
Basically, you have three good options. First, your friend and you should completely ignore them. If they scream insults at her, don't scream back. Don't even talk back. Don't even look at them. Treat them like thin air. If they're regular bullies, this will already make the situation better. Bullies enjoy their bullying because they receive a lot of attention. The moment they are being ignored, they lose interest. Secondly, you could take a more pro-active approach and ask one of your fellow passengers (an adult) to help you guys. This is something that affords a lot of courage because you have to go up to a complete stranger and ask him/her for help but it can already help you scare those bullies away. Thirdly, the most active approach is one that you should only do if you're really confident in yourself and your physical abilities. If you want to physically fight them, it's important to find out who is their leader. Don't fight followers. Fight the leader. If you can scare the leader of their group, all the other guys will also shit their panties. In order to not turn this ugly, it's important to make this fast and clean. Go up to the leader of their group and punch him in the face. My dad once told me that he was bullied really badly as teenager and this is how he solved it. He went up to the loudest, most dominant guy and punched him just one time but it was enough for that guy to bleed and lose a couple of teeth. After that day, my dad was never ever bullied again. But like I said, this is something you should only do if you feel comfortable. Asking help from a fellow passenger is certainly the safer bet.1
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Most Helpful Girl
of course thats bullying... i really hate bullies.
First of all, its not their business if she's bisexual, homosexual, pan sexual, etc,.. secondly, she likes Japanese anime? Whats so bad about that? she's 14 right? she's allowed to like anything her heart desires. And if you feel they are really bugging you THAT much Id stand up to them, with your friend.
(My past- these guys used to call me and my best friend lesbians because we were always together, we held hands (not hand to hand, like arm in arm), anyway, we always did everything together, went home together, etc... to make the guys mad, my friend would agree saying "yeah, we're lesbians you have a problem with that?" -we really werent, we were just giving them a reason to leave us alone, because once you agree with them, they look stupid... but that didn't cut it for me, since I was pissed off, what did I do? I went up to the most ANNOYING GUY, and kicked him in the balls. the idiot cried like a chick and after that he left us alone, he didn't even look at us anymore.
Now im not saying, kick them in their balls - Im saying, get together and agree that you're both weeabos, and if they have a problem with it they can go to hell. After some time, they will both get tired of making fun of you. Bullies prey on the weak because they have personal problems at home or in their life... sometimes.
If you take this up with the school, the school won't do anything because this wasn't done on school premises, I should know. I've been bullied up until 7th grade.. I had a shitty past (dont we all though?). Anyway, to get to my point. This girl used to call my house and bully me by making mean and rude comments about my deceased father. (I stopped piicking up the phone and the messages were saved) My mother got so mad, she went to the school with the recorded phone to speak to the Dean - the dean said there is nothing she could do because this wasn't done on school premises... Basically if you're not being bullied on school property, the school doesn't give a shit. Which is unfair...
My best advice is - ignore them, or record their comments and go to the Dean or Principal... maybe itll work for you.0