Seriously my husband and i need a vacation alone away from kids, we really need some time to ourselves. So, I thought of looking for a babysitter to stay with my kids but i don't know if i can trust them or not. I can't leave them with my parents because i believe that they hate me "long story" and not even free to take care of them. My husband's parents live 4 hours from us and that would be hard. It's going to be for a week.
p. s I have 4 years old and a baby who's 6 months.
- You can/ can't trust themVote A
- leave your kids at their grandph's houseVote B
- Take your kids with youVote C
- Just forget about this vacationVote D
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I wouldn't employ a babysitter for this kind of thing if you don't even know the person. My parents also went on vacation when I was a kid and left me and my siblings to the babysitter but this girl was a close friend of the family and had been babysitting us for several previous to that.
The issues is not so much real dangerous (it's unlikely the babysitter is going to be some psychopath), the danger/problem is that the babysitter has no idea what your children are like and your children don't have any idea what he/she is like. It's not a good idea for any of the two parties. In order to be a good babysitter, you need to know the children a little. This helps you react to certain situations in specific way. This should be trained during short periods of babysitting (if the parents go out for a movie etc.), so that it can be discussed afterwards with the parents if necessary. If you two go on vacation and something happens and the babysitter doesn't know how to react appropriately, there's no way for you two to assist him/her. In fact, this kind of thing would potentially ruin your vacation because you'd just be thinking and worrying about the kids all the time. But it's also not a good idea for the kids because most children feel very uncomfortable with complete strangers. My girlfriend has been babysitting as a student job for quite a long time and nowadays she gets along great with the kids but in the beginning, they were super scared of were. It's just a natural reaction. Unless you want to have a huge drama and crying and tantrums being thrown ten minutes before you go to the airport, it's not a good idea.
I would definitely try to give the children to some family member that you trust or maybe a good friend of yours or your husband. If nothing works, I would wait a little bit with the vacation. Personally, I don't find it a good idea to leave a 6-months old baby with someone else anyway. At that age, babies need lots of love and even if it's just a week, it will feel like a year for the baby. These kind of things can easily lead to a feeling of abandonment and traumatize the child. I'm saying this because it happened to my mom when she was a baby and she still suffers from it in certain situations.2