I'm 24 and I'm starting to feel like it's time to give up on love.
I have a decent job with potential to get better jobs in my field in a year or less. I am a licensed professional. I worked hard to get where I am. I had doubts but now I'm content with my field. I do want to switch to a new position at a different company but I have a niche.
Maybe I'll just get my own place and a dog. I live with family since I graduated in the spring and my job is new so saving up money first.
I am not loaded but I have a high level degree. I seem accomplished. But I've been unlucky in love.
Some daddy traumas. I've had quite a few boyfriends for only a few months or less. Most didn't lead to sex. I like to take it slow that way.
But I've been abused and mistreated a lot. Yet I'm so hungry for love from a man. It eats me alive. There's nothing I want more. And now I met a guy who seemed very interested but he is dating someone. He led me on big time and was hard core flirting. And due to circumstances I can't change now I have to see him daily because of work and it burns.
I've been so hurt and so many negative experiences that I give up. I feel like me finding a man with similar religious and other values who I love and loves me and respects me and wants to marry me is out of the cards. I've been to therapy but didn't help much. I am pretty good at self help. I've learned to have better self respect etc. but it just feels like love will never happen. I feel like men only want my looks bc I have big boobs on a small body and blonde hair and green eyes. But they don't stay. Maybe im too needy. I try not to be. But maybe they can sense it. I'm so love starved but yet feeling so hoprless.
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Can I ask what you mean by daddy traumas?
You talk in a very bland, emotionless way and monologue like I tend to. Have you ever looked up what aspergers is?
I can't tell you that people won't lie to you or use you, because people do that. I can tell you though, that the only way to block out all of the bad is to also block out all of the good, because they tend to go hand in hand.
What are your religious views that you think are so hard to match? I'm assuming you're not the "wait until marriage" type.
Flirting doesn't necessarily mean that something is going to come out of it and I learned that the hard way... but if you had aspergers, it would explain an inability to connect with other people around you.
I guess there's a checklist you can go through for things like "Are my standards too high?" "Am I doing something wrong to alienate potential dates?", "Are my issues getting in the way of this relationship or is it him?".
You really can't do anything to change the world. All you can try to do is learn and change yourself... but at the same time, if someone else is the problem, you can't change them either.
Seriously too, you're 24. My sister is 45 and just met someone 2 years ago. You're still young.0