I used to be insanely obese in middle school. I got bullied a lot. My father WAS an alcoholic and negligent. I fell into deppression and flunked every subject. Then we moved to a new state and I wanted to bury my past behind me so I exercised and studied like crazy. My dad changed too, after losing my mom to cancer. Now I'm the one who gets straight As and what would you call "attractive." I still suffer from insecurities. I had been dating this guy for a year now and he knows nothing about what I went through.
Should I tell him or will he be disgusted?
- Open up and tell him.Vote A
- Forget it.Vote B
Most Helpful Guy
Well there are scores of those that want to date these people well knowing they were fat when they were kids.
If someone has a problem just because you were obese at one point in time then they are not only overlooking the hard work and result oriented person you are but they aren't fit enough to be around you cause more likely that person / people are intimidated by your ability to regenerate yourself on all counts :)
If he's anything of a man then he's only going to appreciate how you've turned out - nothing less. I'd say tell him - vote 'A' :)
If he is disgusted the loss is his and I'm not saying this just for the sake of cheering you up. I mean it :)
Tell him too just cause it's playing on your mind :)
Most Helpful Girl
The growth of a relationship as to do with the ability to open up and share secrets. That further creates a bond and make your love grow stronger.
If he finds himself turned off by you (which I feel he won't), then he doesn't truly care for you.
Someone that really does, will not judge you by your past.
I am sure he's willing to share some skeletons in his closet as well.
We all have a past!
It isn't always roses and flowers like we all try to pretend it is.
You'll feel much better letting your past off of your shoulders.
He might even be amazed at how much you've progressed, and have a whole new respect for you.
It's not easy to overcome what you did.
Never be ashamed of your past, it molds you into who you are (especially when you allow yourself to gain and take from it).1