Let me starts by saying I'm not against the religion. I am married to a Muslim and regularly spend time with his muslim family. My husband is always urging me to look into the religion more, and I would seeing as I agree with most of what it says and I believe in God and can differ from right and wrong.
But there are certain things in which I auppose I should ask a shiek. These things keep me from fully embraceing the religion.
Particularly, the idea of 72 virgins given to martyrs in jannah.
My husband explained it as a reward for men who have hardly ever sinned. I asked him to turn it around and asked if he would question it if there was a possibility of me (he's the very jealous type) getting 72 husbands in heaven. He honestly admitted that he would and then seemed reluctant to talk about it any more. What's worse about this idea is that your wife becomes the leader of these virgins and feels no jealousy apparently. Does all of this not sound like women were created just to serve and have sex with men? 99% of hell is women, it's a sin for a woman to not have sex with her husband, multiple wives, etc.
look, I am really not bashing the religion. I genuinely want to think about reconverting. But these things keep me guessing, and I would have to be an idiot not to question it.
Can anyone help?
Most Helpful Guy
Religion is largely invented by men for men. I mean, you have the Genesis story where the sins and suffering of mankind ultimately boiled down to a foolish woman eating an forbidden fruit and then convincing the husband, who trusted her, to do the same (isn't that what it's all about? I'm not religious so I might be interpreting it incorrectly, but seems plain as day to me).
Then you also have the hidden story of Lilith which is a bit more obscure who was apparently turned into a succubus sort of demon creature because she tried to be Adam's equal and not his submissive partner.
I mainly can't respect that side of religion. It doesn't seem to promote a healthy idea of marriage, women's sexuality, homosexuality, etc.
Anyway, if you are married to a religious guy, probably you're somewhat property, but property to whom he should be faithful until death. After death, it's an orgy with celestial virgins of unbelievable beauty that cannot be compared to anything or anyone on this earth.3
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Most Helpful Girl
im pretty certain both men and women can get whatever u want in heaven in the islamic view. maybe to a man 72 virgins sounds enticing hence it being used as an example but if u told me that what i get, i wouldn't be excited. thats not something exciting to me. and jealousy in general wouldn't exist in heaven. tbh dont apply the double standards of everyday life to the afterlife, its meant to be everything u want and perceived by u as an individual as what u want... not a complex coexistance of many where one persons happiness is another persons woe.0