The past few days I've had a really bad sore throat and sinus problems and I couldn't stop coughing. As well as a high fever and somehow I ended up with pinkeye too. On top of all that I'm on my period too. So I've been pretty much just felt completely awful. I've still been going to work though and I work 10 hour shifts everyday. My fiance left early from his 5 hour shift because he "was tired" I get home and collapse on the couch cause I was up all night coughing and I accidentally sleep too late and wake up at 10pm and didn't get a chance to cook or do dishes. I told him he could have cooked and ate without me. But he had been on the xbox since he got home and didn't want to leave it. He said he was ok. He would really rather starve than make the effort to cook something. And I cook every night I don't know why it's a big deal. Then his mom comes by the next day unexpected and keeps saying how I need to clean the house and how bad it looks. I'm about to lose my sh*t. Why are men such babies when it comes to betting sick but expect women to suck it up
He even told me to stay away from him and I got my friend to take me to the doctor
Most Helpful Guy
First of all, I would like to say that I'm not like that (not all men are like that). I take great care of my girlfriend when she's sick. Sometimes I pamper her almost a little too much actually.
Secondly, I don't think your boyfriend is an asshole as everyone else here says. I think one problem in your relationship is that there's not enough positive communication going on. For example: did you want him to cook for himself or for you? If you wanted him to cook dinner for himself, you shouldn't get upset if he decides to not cook. It's his body and his choice. My girlfriend sometimes doesn't feel very hungry and decides to only eat some cereals. I myself sometimes starve myself for the whole day for no good reason. None of us would force the other person to cook. Your boyfriend is an adult and you have to trust him to make the right decisions for himself (cuz you're his girlfriend, not his mom). However, if you wanted him to cook dinner for YOU or for the two of you, you definitely didn't say it clearly enough. This is a mistake that lots and lots of women make (including my girlfriend sometimes). Women tend to think that you can just hint on something and your boyfriend/husband will get it. In fact, he SHOULD get it in the mind of the woman. Unfortunately, this is not the case. We're all different people and what might be clear to you is not necessarily clear to your boyfriend. This is why it's incredibly important in a romantic relationship to utter your thoughts and feelings as clearly as possible. In addition, try to use as many I-messages. An I-message is a concept from psychotherapy (my mom is a therapist). Instead of phrasing things as absolute truths or commands, always emphasize your subjectivity. This way, the message doesn't come across as an attack or being bitchy. So instead of saying "Cook me some dinner!" or even worse, a passive aggressive accusations such as "Why don't you cook me dinner?" try to say something like "Sweetie, I feel really sick. It would really mean a lot to me if you cooked dinner for me/us". This is how my girlfriend and me try to communicate. A lot of long-term couples make the mistake that they lose their shyness at one point and because too much like buddies (uninhibited). In some cases, this can be counterproductive. You should also show your respect for your boyfriend, even when your sick. Of course it's understandable to get annoyed if he doesn't react but you should always make an effort to start of in kind,0
Most Helpful Girl
Not my BF! JUST NO!0