Most Helpful Guy
Two of my friends used to be in a relationship. They are broken up now, and because of that, my friend group can no longer organize get-togethers that involve both of them. It has to be one or the other.
They're names are Gavin and Gabby. I'm constantly torn between the two. Gabby has told us about some bad things Gavin did while they were together, but I don't know if i believe her because i trust Gavin just as much as her, and Gavin denied all of the things she told us. Plus, Gabby has a way of blowing things WAAAAAAAAY out of proportion. She seems to love drama, and is always the instigater.
Gabby has been winning our sympathy lately because she recently got cut out of another group of her friends, and she feels like we are all she has left. This of course has caused us all to spend more time with her than Gavin, which in turn is making him feel lonely, and he is drifting further and further away from us every time we do something without him.
I want to remain friends with both of them (but Gabby in smaller doses than Gavin), and I'd rather take Gavin's side for reasons stated above. But everytime i talk to Gabby she has a way of making everyone feel sorry for her, and bringing everyone to her side.
In order to hopefully solve this problem, our group made a plan to alternate every weekend between hanging with Gavin and hanging with Gabby. Everyone was in on it except for Gavin and Gabby themselves.
Just last night we told Gabby about our plan... and she didn't take the news very well. She started crying, left the room, and came back about a half hour later very bitter and angry, and even threw something at me (although she missed), as i was the one who delivered the news. (Overdramatic as usual). But of course she was just fine after everyone decided to take her side...
Now, everyone agreed to confront Gavin and tell him that he either has to get his shit together and stand to be at the same place as Gabby, or we are just going to stop hanging out with him all together.
I think this is very harsh, considering how heartbroken he still is about Gabby. Especially since we never even got the chance to tell him about our original plan (which he would've been ecstatic about, I'm sure).
But at the same time, i feel like we might be doing the right thing taking Gabby's side, since Gavin will be moving next year, and we won't see much of him anyway.0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm worried about my guy friend. I liked him and I thought he liked me but lately he's been isolating himself and from his social media it looks like he's online dating a guy... I know it must be hard for him because before he said he thought it was disgusting to not be straight but I want him to realize that even if we can never date, I'll still love him unconditionally. I saw him last night for the first time in like a month and he just said hi. I was with another friend who doesn't care for him so maybe that's why but still... he's been distant and he used to tell me everything. We both understood each other and could talk about anything but I guess he doesn't trust me as much about this... I'm just kinda hurt and I want my friend back 😥1