I'm someone who has too good of a heart. I give too much, love too much, care too much, Im too nice, too kind, too caring, I trust too much and easily. And they say having a good heart like mine is a really good thing but it's terrible for me. It doesn't do any good for me. I feel like my life would be better and feel better if I didn't have a good heart. But it's how my heart is, who I am and such. How do I change all of this? Please and thank you
P. S. I'm also a really emotional and sensitive person
Most Helpful Guy
Join the "Kirito is Always Right Foundation"?
"A quantum supercomputer calculating for a thousand years could not even approach the amount of fucks I do not give"
I used to be like that too. I was real considerate and concerned about other people. But then I noticed that people are idiots, and being the nice guy got me literally no where. All the assholes and dirt bags got the winnings while I get to scrape barnacle off a ship's hull. (figuratively) So I just naturally started to not care anymore. When I did care I was taken for granted, but when I said "Nope" I became the bad guy. So keep your friends real close, and everyone else on the other side of the mine field.1
Most Helpful Girl
I get where you're coming from, I've been there. I've had the conversation with an ex about how he can't get over an ex because she treated him terribly, how men always fall for girls who treat them like crap and I've been told I try too hard, forgive too easily and love too much. It truly is a curse.
All you can do is try to channel it into hobbies or activities that need heart. I do a lot of animal rescue for example. You could volunteer to spend time with kids or old folks who need someone just like you in their life. You could fill your life up with many friends to spread your energies and not focus too much on one person or situation. Or you could just be hurt so many times you become hard and bitter and it stops mattering. That last one should be avoided but it's sadly the end result for a lot of 'too nice' girls.0