I try very hard not to be depedant on other people, but I can't help but second guess my looks sometimes.
I consider myself just above average, it its based on personal opinion and ratings I have gotten. I think I look good and my looks are the thing im most confident about (from experience most girls are the oposit) . But sometimes i feel like im just lying to myself, and im not as attractive as i feel like i am.
Some will find me very attractive, some find me average and others will find me hideous, and im completely find with that. But, and here the reason I started with "i try not to be depedant on other people", I have never had a boyfriend before. Sure guys i liked me and i have dated, but with the guys i liked the most (and for once didn't compromise with looks) it never worked out.
On top of that a cute guy show interest in me maybe once a year, and yes, it never works out. I understand that personality plays a big role. The reason i second guess my looks are because out of the 10 guys that show intrest in me only 1, maybe 2, are attractive to me.
So basically what im asking is how do i know if im just lying to myself when i say i feel sexy or attractive? I mean the guys approaching me must surely belive im on their level physically, either that or they have very highty self esteem or they're just trying their luck
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I'm not sure how much looks matter except as a minimum standard and an initial attraction. Like the decor in a restaurant it will bring you in but no matter how good it looks if the food or service is bad you won't be coming back. On the other hand no matter how good the food is most people like a minimum standard of decoration and cleanliness.
I'm not especially good looking but by the time I was in my early 20's and could read women well I was surprised when an unattached woman wasn't obviously interested in me.
Don't know why, the conclusion i came to is other men must be really seriously useless.0