Boyfreind is depressed I would say. He can't find a job and a few other things are getting to him. He has not done anything in awhile besides with his family. He has not wanted to hang out or do anything. Sometimes it gets to me and I don't know how to help him. I love him so much and just wish i could see him. He sits in his room playing video games all day/ night and for the past 2 days I haven't really talked to him besides a few texts back and fourth or he takes forever to answer. How do I get him out of this state. I had bought him tickets to a baseball game for this upcoming Monday as an Easter present. I haven't seen him so have not been able to give them to hi. I thought maybe it could be something to get his mind off things forawhile and have some fun. He hasn't even wanted to have sex. The other night i wanted to and was on my way over his house and then he said he wasn't so sure if he was up to it. He said he was sorry and called himself an a-hole. I know things will get better, he has a good job for the summer, and I am here for him, I do not know what else to do. I really miss seeing him and want to start doing things again with him. Has anyone ever been this depressed? If so how did you over come it?
Most Helpful Guy
That is a bummer, what we think about can totally affect our mood and overall disposition, if he is healthy no physical issues then help him zero in on the real problem if you can identify a specific issue like can't find a job, why? look at the jobs he is applying for then look at the method he is using then develop a plan... if it's something else then use the same approach, ask open ended questions, like... you sound bummed what are you worried about? Oh, school, I get that which subject are you thinking about and so on... drag him out of the room too...0
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Most Helpful Girl
I've been dealing with depression for 10 years. On and off I've been to counsellors, psychologists, been on about 5 different medications. Sometimes in the past I would be feeling so depressed that I didn't have the will to do anything about it. My depression is constant but the intensity of it fluctuates. It always there so I've gotten to the point where I can somewhat keep going with life.
I think the best thing to do for your boyfriend is to support him, and try to get him some help. Don't force it on him, but getting contact information for suicide hotlines in your area or finding someone he can talk to can help a lot.
If it does come to a point where he might be planning suicide, that is the time to get him the help whether or not he wants it.0