Hi everyone! Thanks for reading. I made this post as I am feeling very sad, and very desperate and lonely. I will be 25 in the summer. I have completed graduate school and work full-time at a medical school. I have never been on a date, never kissed, and I'm probably the oldest virgin out there. My family is originally from Pakistan, but a lot of people mistaken me for being middle eastern, Italian, Spanish, or Mexican.
So many of my friends are married, engaged or have had long-time boyfriends. I have never come close. I blame it on my appearance. In HS, I was very unattractive, but since then, I have lost some weight, and learned to take better care of myself. Even though I dress better now, I have not noticed a change in how men respond to me. I always make sure to say hello to others, but people look right past me.
I have dreamed about having a love marriage someday, that someone might love me and want to marry me. Now, i feel that that won't happen for me. My mom is arranging my marriage, and I feel like I should take what I can get. I'm not from a rich family, nor do I have a lot of offer in terms of property, homes, etc. but I think I could be a decent wife and mother someday.
Not knowing how I look, what would you do if you were me? I am seriously considering meeting someone off the internet to get my first kiss before my 25th birthday. What do you think my options are, and how can i deal with feeling like this? i feel very, very sad, and there is no one I can go to about this. I feel very lonely, and like a left-over that no one wants to look at. My feelings are valid, so don't tell me I'm being dramatic.
Please give me some advice or some help. I really need it and will appreciate it.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm 29 and in the same boat. If it happens it happens. I almost don't care if it does or does not happen. This world is a social place and wants everybody to be the same, which I have never been. I've always been the outcast, the quiet one, the one that nobody would approach for friendship or anything else. I find most people that I know are from work. My best friend, is a girl, and I met her at my last part time job. We became friends over a few years, sucks that she had a boyfriend for many years and then split up with him. And I know she doesn't like me. So I just do whatever I want nowadays, look for a job, maybe there is love somewhere, but I k kw that I'm going to have to make he move because no girl will ever even speak to me.
So I'll likely end up being that weirdo you see siting at the bar alone, eating and drinking a beer, not talking to anybody. I already do it, I'll just do it more often when I have more money1
Most Helpful Girl
Well I'm 24 and I'm a virgin and never had my first kiss but I'm happy because it's a choice I have made, but you are still young you will definitely find someone trust me. But I understand what you are going through seeing your friends getting married or having long term relationships, so I will say try talking to a guy if you see someone you like try starting a conversation my friend tried it at clubs and she was happy when guys were talking to her. Always have a friend with you that you can trust and they can help you through it.1