- Yes, Sometimes it's the only way.33% (8)57% (12)44% (20)Vote
- No, It's just an excuse to be self righteous and cruel42% (10)19% (4)31% (14)Vote
- It all depends25% (6)24% (5)25% (11)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
Damn straight it does.
I'm a strong-willed, stubborn, clever, relentless little bitch, lol. There's exactly one reason why I didn't end up out on the streets, or addicted to drugs, or fucked-up in any number of other extremely tempting ways when I was a teenager -- and that one reason was my father's VERY tough, VERY loving love.
That man has one hell of a strong hand, and an indomitable presence. He means business. He almost never even has to raise his voice... because he doesn't have to -- everyone KNOWS what he's capable of, if Shit Goes Down.
My father (a widower) raised me and my 4 brothers, all by himself, on a blue-collar income, in one of the worst and most gang-infested neighborhoods of Long Beach... and all 5 of us have grown up to be solid, upstanding, winners at life.
There's only one way to do that, and that one way is tough love.
By the way, too many people are forgetting that there are 2 words in tough love, and that the second word is "love".
Abuse is NOT "tough love".
Tough love is LOVE.2
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Most Helpful Guy
If kids don't know anything better they end up finding it normal, of course.
All to often it seems to be a kind of revenge by adults on kids for what they had to suffer from their ignorant parents (who were overwhelmed by their responsibility and used or abused the authoritarism they knew.)
Of course, it leads to a violent and hypocrytical society.1