Honestly as I'm growing older I feel like it doesn't. Sure it makes you feel good. But other than that, it doesn't mean anything. That guy is likely not going to have a real interest aside from staring at you.
In fact, I think this about people in general. If you're doing something to get status/respect, is it even worth it? It's not like people will pay your bills. YOU have to establish a life for yourself and YOU have to be happy with that life.
I remember wanting the respect of some people so badly. Now I don't really care. Sure if I run into them I wouldn't mind having a conversation where I can show them how awesome I am, other than that their approval does not really pay my bills for me. I have to do that, so why should their judgment matter.
Most Helpful Guy
I figured this out already when I was 14 or so (I became emotionally mature very early, due to physical disability and my general life situation). In a way it helped me quite a lot... but I have to admit it also made me a very lonely person. I was extremely consequent in my attitude and still am. If I feel like somebody doesn't have genuine, deep, intimate feelings for me, I won't bother. This is why I've never had any buddies or "acquaintances". I've only had 2-3 really, really close friends that I've known since kindergarten. I don't want to do stupid small talk because this whole superficiality annoys the hell out of me. I can feel with every fibre of my body that the other person doesn't give a shit about me and I don't give a shit about him/her. So why even bother and talk to each other. However, while I still believe in this, I have to admit that sometimes I wish I had been more of a mainstream type of person. I wish I had been one of those 99% of teenagers who do dumb stuff simply because their friends do it too. At least that way, I would have become a more socially integrated person. I've learned in my life so far that having strict principles in regard to fellow human beings and being socially integrated really doesn't go well together. My loneliness is the price I pay for refraining from engaging in any superficial relationships.0
Most Helpful Girl
Preach. Like you're living your own life and doing your own thing. If someone isn't enthusiastic about you doing that in good ways for you, they're really not worth your time.
thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to use this gif T-T0