I have seen the topic of people cheating come up on gag and many people seem deeply disturbed by this, often going so far as to believe that a person is forever a cheater or lacks any morals at all. It seems few other issues provoke such impassioned response. Why is that?
So that gagers know where I stand, I believe cheating is imoral. I believe it hurts people. I do not believe that cheaters are forever cheaters. I do not believe that all cheaters have no morals. I know you have only my word to go on, but I have never cheated on anyone, ever. To the best of my knowledge, I have never been cheated on.
Most Helpful Girl
The reason it invokes such a strong response is because cheating hurts real deep.
My ex boyfriend cheated on me throughout our whole relationship. He would say he was at a family thing, and then be out with other girls. The only reason I found out about the cheating was because a friend of mine found his profile. She messaged him (he didn't know she was my friend) and he told her he had been single a long time. He had pictures up of stuff that happened during our relationship (new car, new dog).
I confronted him about it and he denied it even existing. He said someone was pretending to me him online (unlikely as he gave my friend his number and was texting her).
He told me he wanted to be with me, to live with me and have a life together. I was really upset when I found out it was all a lie :(
It's such a personal thing when it happens. And people will even go so far as to say it is the person's fault their partner cheated, or at least imply it. I've had this happen so many times.
But cheating hurts you in your core. I was so angry and my trust was betrayed. I just felt so lost for a long time. It really affected me. Unless you have been cheated on, it can be hard to know how you would react.
I believe cheaters can reform themselves. But only they can choose to do that. I wasn't willing to put myself in a position to keep trying with a person who clearly wouldn't admit to what had happened and try to work past it.2
Most Helpful Guy
Hey @Bluemax. Hope this is the question you were referring to.
As I said in the other response, I believe that everyone makes mistakes. And I don't think that people who have cheated are bad people. But I do believe that they had made mistakes. Love and sex really are grey areas, and there is such a thing as living in a loveless situation that can't be changed. Divorcing with children, or religious restrictions may not allow for a split.
But humans have needs.
Is this condoning cheating? No. But it's simply looking at the situation with compassion and understanding, instead of judgement. Judgement is the enemy of Understanding. But ultimately, people make mistakes. And when you are needing human contact people do fucked up things to get it. And your brain isn't necessarily working the way it should.
Anyone really try to think straight when they are horny and their body temperature is up? Why do you think people literally take cold showers or rub one off... (or two.) Personally, I've done some pretty dumb shit in this state. But it is what is, I can't change it and really only regret wasting my time.
So, unless someone is a serial cheater... Again, have some compassion and empathy. And even think about why someone is a Serial Cheater. As a matter of fact, go read the reasons people cheat on Whisper. You'd be surprised at some of the answers.0