My whole life I've been disappointed by girls my age, and not just ones I found attractive. Girls who I thought were friendly would try to use me for homework help and then never respond to texts when I asked them to hang out or if they could help me, and girls I actually liked would essentially do the same thing. More recently, there was a girl who definitely used to like me. She looked at me often, smiled, flirted and seemed interested in me. We always did homework together, but I didn't find her that attractive at first. Of course, as time went on she seemed like an awesome person, and I started to ask her to hang out outside of just doing hw together. Of course, she either ignored me or said no. We continued to be friends but it became sorta awkward. We still text each other since we are the same major and have classes together, but she's unreliable. Things like this have happened probably like a dozen or more times. I'm 21 now and sick and fucking tired of it all. I want to give up on women as all they do is disappoint or frustrate me and I will never try and chase a girl again. It only leaves me sad and bitter. At least after giving up I will be able to focus solely on my career, hobbies, and actual friends and won't waste any more of my precious time on those who will only hurt me. Needless to say I have never kissed a girl never mind had sex, and all of my friends have had both. However, out of the ten or so close friends I have, only two are in relationships that have lasted whereas the other eight have been torn apart by women. Despite the fact that I will always be biologically attracted to women, I am really starting to talk myself out of ever going after one again due to the god awful past experiences I've had. Of course I will have to work with women and stuff, but I will never trust one with my feelings ever again. It's sad, but I believe it will help me in the long run. I'd rather have nothing to do with them than be constantly snake bitten.
Most Helpful Girl
Taking a break from women to focus on yourself and clear your head is a great idea. It sounds like you're in a very unhappy place, so stop pressuring yourself to date and let yourself take a breather. But don't rule out the possibility that you might eventually find the right person for you. It could happen when you least expect it.1
Most Helpful Guy
Disappointed in the other opinion I've read here. Sorry to hear that you've had such a tough time with girls but truth of the matter is, you've just been around the wrong ones. You're 21. You've been talking to girls... Have you met a woman yet? Right, your mom. That should be enough to convince you that there's women out there that are respectable. Woman out there are existent and there's one out there for you. Perhaps try focusing on your craft i. e passion and go from there. Stop messing around with girls and focus on yourself it's not working right now and it won't do you any good if you hate the whole gender itself not all of them are snakes. Good luck and God bless.2