I find that most people on GAG don't like their ideas to be challenged. I've been asking lots of questions on GAG where I play the devil's advocate, just to get people to explain more, to challenge their ideas, which I find something really interesting, and a way to learn, but most people don't like that at all, they take it as offensive, many even end up blocking me because of that.
Anyways, do you like to have your opinions and ideas challenged?
- Yes44% (22)44% (19)44% (41)Vote
- Sometimes, depends on the topic46% (23)42% (18)44% (41)Vote
- No10% (5)14% (6)12% (11)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
I love to play the devil's advocate! I like to learn. However, being naturally eager and curious, I also need to keep my soft skills sharp so I phrase and pace the conversation in a way that doesn't come off like an interrogation or being overly skeptical/overbearing. When to back off is important. My goal is not to challenge but to learn... or to teach.
On a growth level, it's all about balance. I can only form a true opinion once I know each side, intellectually and emotionally. Anything less is almost dishonest on my part - how can I know if I don't really know? I've learned the most from having my ideas challenged. It makes me think about them in ways i never had to before. It makes me have to defend what I say and face any weaknesses in my argument because I don't know everything.
On a strategic level, "keep your friends close and your enemies closer." I need to know what ideology or mindset I'm up against in order to control the situation.
On an egoistic level, I don't want to be made a fool of. If there's an angle I haven't thought of, I don't want to be blind-sided by it in a situation that actually matters.
So far, it's win-win-win-win-win... For engaging in debate with an interesting adversary...1
Most Helpful Guy
A lot of people don't know the enjoyment and reward of thinking from different sides of an issue - I don't know if that's just a fact of human psychology, or a failure of the education system, or both, or what. People desire simple answers in a complex world, and are willing to fight blindly for whatever log they've found to float on (massively mixed metaphor there, sorry!)2