What methods or ways would you recommend someone do to gain confidence?
Most Helpful Girl
Well, for me personally, what worked was challenging myself consistently:
1) Do things that intimidated me
2) Force myself to speak up, even if it was scary and even if I had to tone it down.
3) Work on what I knew I could change.
4) Finally accept that there are things that I can't change, so obsessing over it is useless.
5) I stopped putting myself down and comparing myself to others, even if at times I felt tempted.
6) I began acting confident even though I wasn't, the positive feedback actually began to make me feel confident.0
Most Helpful Guy
For most people it naturally comes with age. How many older people do you know who aren't confident? Probably not many.
You just have to realize that you can do just about anything. Stop making excuses why you can't do things. Just do them. After a while you'll realize that you really can. Maybe you won't do it perfectly, but you'll do it.
Then when you can't do something it's not a big deal. There are enough things that you know you can do because you've done them, that the things you can't do become less important.
Confidence doesn't mean you are good at everything. It's about knowing yourself. You learn what you can do, and what you can't do. You are OK with either one. You become confident with not being perfect. You accept who you are. You quit worrying about what others think of you. You quit trying to fit in places that aren't a good fit.
Mostly you get confident just from doing. If you can't do something, so what? Do something else. Standing back being afraid to try doesn't get you there. You just have to hold your chin up and say fuck it.
Fear. Get past your fear. Fear is your worst enemy. Stop listening to that voice of fear. React, don't think. Do it without thinking. Thinking will tell you all kind of excuses to be afraid, why you'll fail, why you are better off being complacent.
That kind of thinking will make your life pass you by. You'll get old and look back and realize that you forget to live your life. Stop making excuses. Stop listening to that voice in your head. You are not perfect, accept it. Because you CAN do things.
Know yourself and you'll know confidence. If you don't know for a fact that you can or can't do something, then you don't know yourself. So find out.1