A long time ago, I used to meet women, talk to them for a bit and take them on "first dates". I used to always pay. At the end of the dates, the girl and I would always make plans for another date. When I would followup with the girl the next day... I would get "ghosted".
Women seem to have a bad habit of not wanting to see men again after a first date. This happens so often, that a local radio station on the morning show has their own segment called the "date fail" segment.
I've wasted a lot of time and money meeting women for first dates only to get ghosted after. That's not right.
I talked to these 2 girls recently... and here is how they responded to me when I told them I won't pay for the first date:
"Actually... I think I will pass. Thank you for the offer, though"
Note: For girl number 2, I explained to her my reasoning as to why I don't pay for first dates.
"Naw... a man should ALWAYS pay for a first date. Always! I don't care if his time or money is wasted. In this life that we live, time and money is always wasted. Call me old fashioned, but a man should always pay for a date."
Men and women are supposed to be equal, we both work hard, we understand how hard it is to make ends meet... but women expect a man to pay... and then will most likely ghost the guy after? That's no right.
I cannot pay for a date unless I know I will continuously see the woman and that she won't ghost me.
Most Helpful Girl
If you ask a girl out then the answer to the ''who pays on a date?'' question is a simple one, it’s you. When you invite a girl on a date it’s your responsibility to take care of her. So as a man you should always expect to pay for the date. After all you want her to be able to relax and enjoy her time with you.
And that will be difficult if she’s worried about the money she’s spending.
Another reason it’s important for men to pay for a date is that it sends a clear message of your intentions. If you have a woman split the tab with you she may no longer see this as a ''date.'' She may instead get the message that the two of you are nothing more than friends.
If you want to avoid her seeing you in that light then paying for the date will go a long way.
I think it's pretty sexiest to assume the guy should pay for everything, though. But if you are asking someone out, then paying, or at least offering to pay for the meal is a polite thing to do.
Wishing you the best of luck.2
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Most Helpful Guy
Because those women are sexist and have no self-respect5