I used to be a nice, generous guy who said hi to everyone back in middle school and high school. Girls told me I was the nicest guy in school, and I thought this would bode well for me when it came to dating later on, as well as just making friends like I always have. Boy was I wrong. From the attractive girls taking advantage of me when I was naive and would get used for homework help, to being laughed at when asking out "one of the hot girls" to being lead on over and over again. I love my guy friends because they always support me and get where I'm coming from, and some of them do have girlfriends, but some of them are in the same situation as me. Their girlfriends treat me ok, but I sure as hell wouldn't date any of them. They're all fucking nuts in my opinion. Slowly, I think I'm starting to realize that maybe girls aren't what I thought they were originally. I liked them a lot at the beginning in high school, thought they were perfect little angels that I wanted to cuddle with and kiss and love, but instead they just like teasing me and frustrating me and watching me suffer. Fuck them all, I thought. However, I always get to this point after being disappointed, and then I meet another girl who makes me think "huh, she seems sweet, maybe I was wrong". And then I usually get lied to in one form or another, and the cycle continues. My friends say that they don't understand, and sometimes we just laugh together at how bad our luck is, and go shoot some pool or play pong. But the thing is, I really do want to find love some day. Maybe it's because my 80% guys college is killing my chances at dating at my school? Perhaps I'm just not meant to find "the one"? I'm starting to consider going MGTOW and forgetting them all and moving on for good, but I really wish I hadn't become so jaded sometimes. I guess that's life though, you start off one way and the good/shitty experiences really change your outlook and lead you to make better choices for yourself.
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You seem to fit the stereotypical "nice guy" syndrome.
Here's the general problem with nice guys: they're like American idol contestants who can't sing but plead with the judges, thinking they deserve a place in the competition just because they "want it more than anybody".
The biggest problem with the general nice guy is that a very simple truth eludes him. Women don't date men who make the biggest effort or who care about them most. Women date men who project the most attractive and desirable qualities to them.
That doesn't make girls into bitches. We do the exact same thing. We don't like a girl simply because she loves us so much and has romantic fantasies about us and thinks we deserve someone who really cares for our feelings (i. e., her, the weird stalker girl). Gross!
It doesn't help when you're surrounded by feminine bullshit like, "Just be yourself" (female applause). The harsh reality if you want to start getting desired by the opposite sex is that you have to project attractive and desirable qualities about yourself. You have to make yourself desirable, sexy, and carry yourself the right way. That doesn't come from being attentive to a girl's every need and confessing your secret affections to her. It comes from being a badass.0
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