I’ve noticed how many people who are constantly in and out of relationships struggle to function as a happy, mentally healthy, confident person. It’s like it takes a toll on their ability to love themselves, to love others sometimes, to be positive, to feel a large sense of worth and confidence, and to basically have harmony within them. People act like more relationships and sexual encounters make you “more experienced” and say it like it’s a good thing, but I’ve noticed the opposite.
Is that “extra experience” really necessary if you get in a relationship with someone who has their sh*t together and isn’t going to make you miserable? What do you think? Are constant relationships with various men (or women) over time bad for your soul?
- Yes, they are.Vote A
- No, they're not.Vote B
Most Helpful Guy
I don't equate experience with "winning" even though I have a fair amount. I'm very happy with myself. I have chosen a career that has lead me to average 2-3 years long relationships cause of lots of travel. I can say I have grown a lot and learned some lessons that I can never have learned if I stopped at one.
Sexually, well yes I am able to give some of what I have learned. I don't think I'm better than anyone. I don't compare myself to others so neither should you.
What I have been certain my whole life is that I need a certain amount of challenge/stress to keep growing. Any decent person can raise a family and marry right after high school and that's not what I wanted.
So there are just different people looking for different experiences in life.1
Most Helpful Girl
I feel like constant relationships can be harmful. Especially if the person doesn't take time to reflect on why the relationships are ending. Sometimes it can even knock down your self-confidence if you are always having relationships end. It definitely takes it's toll.
But sometimes it's not the fault of the person. Sometimes they just aren't good at meeting compatible people for them. I feel like my nature causes people to want to use me. I'm a nice person, I love to help other people out. I show my love and care for other people by helping. I also make friends by helping. Sometimes I give too much of myself and it wears me out. Sometimes people take advantage of my helping nature.
I think people need to be careful in relationships. If someone doesn't feel ready, then they should stay single until they feel they are able to fully be involved with another person.1