I'm getting tired of constantly being so hard on myself and feeling like I'm just not good enough, especially for myself. I know I'm worth more than this, but I just don't know what steps to take to finally be able to be content with who I am as a person. Has any of you ever dealt with this and beaten it? Or do know things you can do when you feel low, to make you feel better?
Most Helpful Girl
Try not to be too self-critical, all of us make mistakes and all of us have their little insecurities. That's not just you, you are not an ugly duckling, love yourself, tell yourself kind words every night before you sleep. Are you awkward around girls? -You can change it if you communicate with them more and more. Do you have a big pimple on your forehead? -That's okay bro, we are human. Don't you like your hair or body?- You can change your style. Just look in the mirror and I am sure you will notice at least 3 feature in yourself that you like.
When you want to do something, just count-1,2,3 and do it. Don't think that you are not good or you will fail.
You will always fail if you don't try.
Everyone thinks that I am super-confident (well I am :P) but even I think sometimes - does this dress suit me? F*ck it doesn't. I look awful in this dress... OR.. What the hell just I said... and things like that. Just I know that I shouldn't think too many about such things.
We are not perfect and that's the best thing about us. Even more.. Our imperfections make us perfect.
Seriously every morning and night tell yourself that you are hella good, "damn my eyes are so sexy" and things like that. Look in the mirror and tell yourself "Good morning Don Juan, you look so f*ckingly awesome today".
The truth is that we build our own confidence, no one else, the key of our success is in our hands, just use it Mr.1
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Most Helpful Guy
Confidence comes from being who you want to be and achieving what you want to achieve. Do you have a list of goals about the kind of person you want to be and the things you want to do? I bet you don't, hence your lack of confidence.
If you don't know who you want to be you're constantly going to be walking around seeing other people and thinking "I should be like that", then feel bad about yourself because you're not like that.
Once you make a list, and start sticking to it, then you'll start having the confidence to start being happy with who you are. You'll see someone and be able to be happy for them and who they are and what they've accomplished without feeling the need to compare yourself to them.
Of course that's not to say you'll never lack confidence again, it's a process that is on going, you never become perfectly confident, but you'll become more than confident enough to do and become the things you want to do and be.1