So I'm generally quite emotionally weak, the simplest things can upset or stress me. If someone told me to shut up, I'd get teary eyed, the simplest things can be taken personal, the wrong way or just badly. I honestly hate that I'm this way, I've always wished I was someone who could sweep things under the carpet and not care. I've tried being this person but in the end my feelings will all come out. Lets just say I can be a little bit of a cry baby - I don't normally cry in front of people though so I'm not as annoying as I sound, haha.
In about a year or two, I'll be going into training to follow my dream career after I've got my school certificate and saved up. This job requires you to be emotionally stable, all I'll say is the job is related to the law. I'll be away from my family and friends which are basically my supports and as stupid as it sounds it makes me even more sad to think I'll be away from my dog who I'd always cry to when I was sad, lol.
I guess I'm asking, how can I cope being emotionally weak now and in the future?
Please try to be nice with your answers. :(
P. S. I'm sorry I don't know what topic to put this under ;-;
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Omg I know exactly what you mean. I was like this, and in many ways, still am. My counsellor once told me: When people are born into the world, we're born with different characteristics, one of them being our sensitivity levels. Some people are born with low sensitivity, while others are born with very high sensitivity - meaning, we hold "grudges" (what people would call) longer than others, because we simply cannot heal as quickly as them. We have our good and bads; we are super empathetic to other people and aware of their emotions, but that makes us very vulnerable and easy to react at even the smallest things.
You may have often heard the phrase, "Why do you take everything so personally?" in your life. Worry not - because this is normal for you. It's not normal for them, because they can't understand why we get upset the way we do. They weren't born with high sensitivity levels so they physically can't understand why we are reacting the way we are.
I'm currently in a program called, "DBT" otherwise known as "Dialectical Behaviour Therapy". You should look into it. It helps regulate your emotions, and gives you skills into how to prevent the intensity of an emotion, what do do in distress, etc. It's only been 4 months since I've enrolled in it, but god knows just how much I've changed because of it! I can finally prevent my emotions from getting the best of me, and I can go a full day without breaking down! Sometimes, I still feel like I'm back at square one; but no one said changing yourself for the better was going to be easy.
I really hope for the best of you, because I can imagine how you're feeling right now. Before DBT, I felt like I couldn't go anywhere without being offended at everything people would say to me. I strongly suggest you to look into this therapy. You can PM me if you have any questions! ^_^
Cheers! All the best, OP <32