I read that apparently only 3% of women feel beautiful, & that was heartwrenching to read…
but on the other hand, I know that women in particular are pressured to be humble and modest.
I don’t doubt that most women have many insecurities, but I also think that many women may feel ashamed to express what they like about themselves, due to social pressures to be modest.
Like, I think I’m beautiful sometimes, but I probably wouldn’t say that to someone who was surveying me.
I also tend to downgrade my accomplishments too. For example, I'll write an essay that I think deserves an A (and does end up getting an A), and my professor asks what grade I think I should get, and I'll be humble & say a grade lower than an A.
I don't want to appear conceited, but the fact is, I do feel more confident than I let on.
Does anyone else relate?
Do you ever downplay how you feel about yourself, your looks, and your accomplishments, in order to appear modest and humble?
- I feel very beautiful/handsome5%(2)10%(8)Vote14%(6)
- I feel pretty beautiful/handsome26%(10)21%(17)Vote16%(7)
- I feel somewhat beautiful/handsome18%(7)12%(10)Vote7%(3)
- I feel a little beautiful/handsome5%(2)7%(6)Vote9%(4)
- I don't feel beautiful or handsome, but I don't feel ugly either.18%(7)17%(14)Vote16%(7)
- I feel ugly.21%(8)26%(21)Vote30%(13)
- I feel ugly, but pretend that I feel beautiful/handsome/hot.7%(2)7%(6)Vote8%(4)
I have a feeling women may be more pressured to do the former whereas men may be more pressured to do the latter (avoid admitting insecurities etc)
Most Helpful Guy
Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't, it's a pretty even split... I often just feel average or non-interesting but not ugly. But occasionally I feel very good looking. I don't really think about this when I interact with others though, it does not really have an effect on my confidence level.
I tend to downplay my achievements when talking to people as well, or I have doubts about their legitimacy, and I have been trying to err on the side of being more arrogant than I would naturally be, which ends up coming off as just "normal" I think.0
Most Helpful Girl
I answered C.
Most of the time, I will feel average but sometimes, I do feel beautiful. And that's not necessarily when I'm putting on makeup up and dress up well (ben if that helps). Sometimes like yesterday, I'm just going to the beach with my boyfriend, I have no makeup on but I feel so good and when I see the way my boyfriend looks at me, in those moments, I truly feel beautiful.1