Basically I'll be there for someone no matter what. If you text me or message me that you need to talk or anything, I'll be there. That's just the type of person I am BUT I've noticed that some people aren't there for me like I am with them. For the past couple of days I needed someone to really be there for me. It's been rough couple of days and I feel like some of the people I talk to aren't there for me like I am for them. Does this happen to anyone else?
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That's how mexican culture is laid out for the most part. I look like a white boy but I'm half mexican. My father is Mexican has always gone to great lengths to take care of his loved ones including myself. Really strong family values that are almost intertwined with the Mexican culture.
Dude it's a great trait to have.. you're a caring person and a lot of guys value that especially when it comes to girlfriend or wifey material.
If your friends aren't reciprocating then you need to communicate that to them immediately because if you hold it in.. A... you won't get the support you need and B... you will build resentment towards them when it could easily just be a communication problem. Nobody wants a pessimist for that is universally unattractive but if you are going through legit struggles then you should approach them for that out of self respect.
After you communicate that to them.. then you should make your decision as to whether you want them in your life or not. Gauge their response... if they don't care about you and your well being then fucking drop them dude. That's the main issue my father has had.. people have taken advantage of his kindness.. most of it being financially because he was one of the few in his family that got his shit together and and makes a lot of money coming from a broken home.
I've noticed this for while about my dad when I was growing up and I told myself reaching adulthood and becoming a man that I wouldn't make those same mistakes and let people take advantage of me. I was sort going down that same route and that's one of the reasons I enlisted into the Marines.. I didn't want to be like that.
I can be an asshole at times... and it takes a hell of a lot for me to trust others and that's why i only have like 3-4 real friends and just a shit load of acquaintances.
BUT when someone earns my respect and trust I got their back no matter what. I'd take a bullet for any of my friends or family members and that's even if I'm pissed off with them at the time. I'm saying that because I feel like you probabaly have those same values but might be getting taken advantage of just like my father has.
Worst thing you can do is just keep all this shit bottled up and stay on standby with your emotions. You have to make a move and assert yourself to fix the situation.1